Jenn's Rules

In mock response to Keva's last post, I've decided to list rules of my own. Dont get it twisted I have, again, stolen an idea. Further, because Keva is my bestest friend in the whole wide world she and I have had conversations about this topic on many occasions. Therefore, some things will overlap. Keva and I are both very strong individuals. Keva is strongest in ways that I am not and vice versa. So here are Jennifer's versions of the Relationship Rules.

*FYI...the use of the word 'relationship' is used to describe not only dating situations, but friendships and every other connection that one person can have to another...

1. Communication is the key. Dont talk about aspects of your relationship with others and not with the person it actually concerns. Talking to friends and swallowing your issues without talking it out with your 'special' just means it will blow up later.

2. Do not lie. I know its tempting to lie because you dont want any one person to know all your business but dont do it. Just dont say anything. Do not open your lips and allow foolishness to fall out. Lying just gives the person a valid reason to shut you down.

3. Dont pimp people who dont want to be pimped. If you are a man and you have LOTS of women be honest about it. If you are a woman and get mad dudes be honest about it. Why lie? Most of the time people dont give a damn if you are messing with other people as long as they know the deal.

4. Dont assume anything about anybody. Dont assume cause a girl dresses like a slut that she IS a slut. Dont associate piercings with sexual acts. Dont call a guy a 'pimp' just because you see him talking to girls. You never really know what goes on when the lights go out. I know lots of supposed 'good girls' who are sluts. I know lots of dudes who get NO play even though mad girls talk to them in public. Get to know a person before assuming anything.

5. Deal with people who are your equal. I am not talking about "I have a degree and he doesnt" or "My parents are rich and hers are poor." I am talking about intellectual equals. Dont wife a dumb chick and expect her to want to read a book you suggested. Dont date a 'deep' (yall know i hate that word) man and expect him to care about which purse you take. Be realistic.

6. Do not try to change a person. Take the person as they are. If they want to change, then its nothing wrong with helping someone move in the right direction. However, do not make it your purpose in life to turn a weed-head into an upstanding citizen. You cant make a ho a housewife (couldnt help but to say that). People are what they are. Appreciate them for that or move on.

7. Finally, make sure you show people that you care. I dont mean you have to say 'I love you' all day every day, but make sure they understand that they are important to you. Whether its a hug or a phonecall just to check up on someone, if they are special to you, make sure they know it.

And there it is...

And on a totally disconnected note, I got a REAL job now. Finally on that Grown Woman Grind.